It Was a Dark and Stormy Night…

That familiar line describes our 2021 Halloween party experience well, but it isn’t the whole story. Here’s the rest.

Jason and I thought COVID concerns would be a thing of the past by our 2021 Halloween event. We were incorrect. 2021’s summer and fall brought new variants and fresh waves of uncertainty. Since the virus’ fall plans were still up in the air and out in the air, we decided a yard party was the only way to guarantee accommodating varying comfort levels and not spreading COVID faster than gossip on TMZ.

calaveras de Puebla
Intricate calaveras are common Dia de los Muertos decor. These were handcrafted in Puebla, Mexico.

Doing our shindig outdoors posed some unclear challenges. Namely, we’d never done an all-alfresco Halloween party at our house before, and it was hard to anticipate the extra nuances that might entail for an already-complicated function. Also, October weather is unpredictable. Would the conditions be reminiscent of a tropical island, glacial tundra, or perhaps a dark and stormy night? (Don’t think too hard about that one.)

engulfing rewards
This overwhelming stash consisted of all the party’s favors, handouts, and prizes. Yes, they nearly consumed a whole room.

The theme we had already decided on for the year didn’t work well outdoors, so we had to scratch it, but an appropriate motif presented itself in a roundabout way. I thought a backyard movie could be a great way to entertain the kiddos. The film would need to be appropriate for all ages and at least loosely tied to Halloween. Preferably, it would also link to the year’s theme. And the winner? Coco. With that, Dia de los Muertos became our focus. Yes, I am aware that Halloween and Dia de los Muertos are not the same holiday. They do have some common origins though, which is something I learned from my investigation into the subject.

petite pinatas
The cutest favors at our party were these handmade miniature pinatas. We filled them with Mexican sweets.

That brings me to research, one of my favorite things. I did in-depth research on Dia de los Muertos. It was important to Jason and me that our spotlight on this celebration be about cultural appreciation not appropriation. I created a quiz to educate attendees on some of the origins and practices of Dia de los Muertos with prizes offered for the top scorers. Jason and I ordered party favors and decorations directly from central Mexico to put money back into the communities where the holiday originated. Food at our bash was provided by members of the Hispanic community through Super Taqueria and Panaderia Flores. I hope our efforts would make those of Mexican heritage comfortable sharing their holiday traditions.

celebrating Catrina
Catrina, one of the most iconic symbols of Dia de los Muertos, originated from an etching by Mexican artist Jose Posada over 100 years ago.

That takes us from the determined theme to the undetermined weather. Rain was forecasted for the day of our party. We prepared for this possibility by putting up canopies throughout our backyard and a couple in the front. Additionally, we set out buckets filled with umbrellas ready for use. The showers did come but miraculously stopped an hour or two before our revelries commenced. The rain didn’t pick up again until just before the last of the guests had left. It was a stress-inducing mix of bad and good timing.

from banners and brains
These festive banners came from Mexico. This arrangement of them came from our brains.

In the tumultuous weather, attendees were warmed through several methods. Moods were thawed by the cheerful banners and twinkling orange lights that counterpoised the broody humor of the windy evening. Innards were kept cozy with abundant hot chocolate and tea provided by a massive hot-water dispenser purchased just for this shindig. We went through 25 bags of tea alone; I lost count with the hot chocolate. External surfaces benefited from snugly blankets, which were available in bulk to movie watchers. We also had six propane heaters, a propane-fueled fireplace, and two infrared heaters all pumping out comfort at various locations throughout our yard. The infrared heaters paired with all the outdoor lighting overloaded our exterior circuits, and Jason had to rewire everything the day of the party, which was not an easy or quick task. That rewiring required our windows to emit strings of extension cords.

tent of contentment
The movie tent was extremely popular. With heaters blasting warmth, soft blankets, plentiful snacks, and comfy ground chairs, why wouldn’t it be?

As we didn’t think our yard could accommodate our gathering’s usual 100 guests, we tried to keep the invitee list smaller this year. We ended up with about 60 attendees, which was perfect. It was enough to make our efforts feel worthwhile but not so much as to make our yard feel like an overpacked coffin.

So, while it was a stormy night, it wasn’t exactly dark. Radiant fireplaces, glittering lights, frenzied children, colorful crafts and games, flamboyant costumes, rowdy adults, toothsome cuisine, and thawing liquids all filled the gloom with vibrancy and geniality. We made the most of the turbulent evening offered us to welcome both partygoers and the dead.

Sundance 2021: What’s Up Docs?

Jason and I have gone to the Sundance Film Festival for many years now. This year, attending and going were not synonymous as we attended from our couch. Each show did come with a Q&A though, which is our favorite part of the festival. Unintentionally, we only saw documentaries. I have documented those docs below. Spoiler alert: I’d recommend all of them.

In the Same Breath follows the events in Wuhan, China during the early stages of the COVID-19 pandemic and ties them jarringly to the USA’s COVID mishaps. This documentary reveals the alarming influence of misplaced trust and invented facts and how those propagated the pandemic’s spread and death toll in both countries. As the director, Nanfu Wang, said in the Q&A regarding the similarities between China’s concealment of information and the lies spewed by some government officials here in the U.S., “Freedom of speech doesn’t mean easier access to the truth.” In closing the film, she comments, “I have lived under authoritarianism, and I have lived in a society that calls itself free; in both systems, ordinary people become casualties of their leaders’ pursuit of power.” Many of the picture’s filmers and subjects in China risked government retaliation and even death to supply footage. Since it was shot in the midst of COVID-19, all of its interviews were done remotely, but you’d never guess it.

In the Same Breath
Even over Zoom, the Q&As were the best part of the Sundance Film Festival.

Bring Your Own Brigade is about the horrific wildfires in California in recent years. It doesn’t take the easy route with climate change as the absolute explanation for these deadly blazes. Instead, it intertwines fragments of the complex system proliferating these ever-escalating forces, including climate change. What are the other factors? European arrogance and its assumption that humans can control nature is a contributor. Euro-Americans have ignored Natives’ awareness of the land for centuries, and we are doing it still. Wildfires have always happened in California, but their potential was once lessened through controlled burning. Other influences? Buffer zones between wild areas and cities have slowly been filled with homes making them ineffectual safeguards.

Bring Your Own Brigade contains a scene I could barely stomach viewing. It takes place at a town meeting in the city of Paradise, which lost 85 inhabitants and 11,000 homes in a matter of hours due to the Camp Fire in 2018. In this assembly, residents battle firefighting experts over simple building codes that would reduce the severity of future fires, like leaving plant-less perimeters around houses, in the name of individual freedom. How could people who understand the horrific power of fire in a way few of us ever will fight against their safety and the safety of their neighbors? It was an eerie reminder of the struggles America has faced this last year. For as formidable as human hubris and self-deception are, they are no match for nature’s indifferent might.

Writing with Fire, our third documentary, follows the all-women team at the Indian newspaper Khabar Lahariya over the last five years. These women courageously reveal social injustices and government scandals through their journalism while combating personal discrimination due to their gender and membership in the Dalit caste, the category once referred to as “untouchables.” Although this film focuses on issues in India, the societal and political problems it examines, like systematic inequality and the distraction antics of politicians, are echoed everywhere. This film won the Audience Award for World Cinema Documentary and the World Cinema Documentary Special Jury Award for Impact for Change. If you want to see an empowering movie, this is a great one.

Taming the Garden is an unexpected story about rare, giant trees being uprooted and transported to the private garden of Georgia’s former prime minister. I’m not talking about those sticks you get at the nursery. These “collector” specimens weigh more than a million pounds and many of them are over a century old. This film made me feel a mix of awe over the technical wonders utilized to move these trees and disgust over how the whims of the powerful can be made reality at any expense. From massive excavations to cutting powerlines, nothing is outside the influence of this billionaire… and all just to fill his garden with 200 unusual trees.

Due to some misunderstandings about the new online process for the festival, Jason and I didn’t get to see all of our last documentary, Flee. This animated movie is about the experiences of a refugee fleeing his home in Afghanistan. The portion we saw was compelling, and the film won the World Cinema Grand Jury Prize in the documentary category. We look forward to seeing it in its entirety when it is released.

Jason and I didn’t have to wait in any lines at the Sundance Film Festival this year or get to catch up with friends while waiting in lines, but we got to participate in fantastic discussions with filmmakers- via a screen of course. It wasn’t a typical Sundance experience, but then again, one of the best things about the Sundance Film Festival is that you never know what you are going to get.

Typically Magical

Christmas is supposed to be magical. Often, it is just typical. For us, last December’s festivities were a little of both.

What was typical about 2020’s Christmas? Jason and I opened presents from each other in our usual fashion, though perhaps a bit earlier than normal. In our drawn-out process, every item is played with, discussed, tried on, laughed at, etc. Jason and I also made beef bourguignon together. We often scavenge for enough moments to make this special dish during the holidays and have succeeded on enough occasions to justify its placement here in the typical category.

the unavoidable benefits of climate collapse
Hiking on Christmas day? Magical or apocalyptical?

That brings me to the magical. What was magical about 2020’s Christmas? Time. Without a multitude of family happenings, Jason and I had enough time to make breakfast together and go on an afternoon hike. I’m not sure if a hike on Christmas should be considered magical or simply a manifestation of climate mayhem, but we enjoyed it either way.

The Silence of the Yams
It puts the icing on.

While we didn’t have present-opening extravaganzas with family members, we did have chaotic Google video chats and gift unveils. Technology is pretty magical even if its trendy offspring, tumultuous virtual conversations, are sometimes less so. Therefore, with reservations, I’m placing these digital gatherings in the magical category.

kooky cookies
We created many film-inspired cookies proving delicious and appetizing aren’t necessarily synonymous.

Those few dull paragraphs sum up what was a delightful Christmas. Maybe magical would be a stretch, but it was ordinarily and abnormally wonderful.